The Development of Emotional Self-Regulation
- Why all these emotions?
- What healthy emotional self-regulation looks like
- Dyadic beginnings of emotional regulation
- When the parent also is emotionally dysregulated
- Effects of avoiding right hemisphere resonance and engagement – Primal Wound
- Techniques for learning self-regulation (free writing, self-compassion, selftalk, parts work)
How Emotional Dysregulation Leads to Limited Self-Development and Existential Insecurity
- Limitations of research and risks to consider
- How self-development depends on self-regulation
- EIPs’ terror of abandonment, powerlessness, worthlessness, and non-being
- Best approaches to avoid triggering EIP’s loss of control and existential fears
Blocked Communication Connection Prevents Resolution, Repair, and Reunion
- Avoidance of emotional intimacy through superficial communication
- Tangential, disrupted communication: maintains control through destroying meaning
- Egocentric communication to block meaningful, reciprocal exchange
- Plan for defeat and narrow goals to what is controllable and achievable
Deal with Fear and Envy of Emotional Openness and Intimacy
- Hostile toward child’s inner individualistic world (thoughts, feelings, dreams)
- Appeal for connection provokes emotional dysregulation and defensive attack on joy, mutuality, outreach
- Why EIPs seem more available at times
- Use imaginary encounters and role play to practice self-expression
- Focus on what you want to say, not whether or not you’re reaching them